Do you still remember the excitement of this first contact, this first hug and this first kiss with your beloved? Do you remember how amazing it was to hold your hand and look in your eyes? Can you remember how time stopped when you were together? Would you, more or less consciously, be able to feel the same again, if only for a day? That’s possible with tantric sex.
Most of the time, many people fatistically accept that the flame of the first day is not so ardent with the weight of years. Oh sure, that does not mean the end of the relationship, but simply a transition to a new phase with a little (a lot sometimes) less sex and less contact. Because it’s a fact, keeping the fire of passion alive takes time and effort , and most couples do not know where to start.
And that’s where Tantra comes in.
Tantra offers us simple and proven practices to deepen intimacy, increase desire and communicate in a more open and authentic way. In our stressed and crazy world, we can see Tantra as a beautiful antidote to the routine that develops in any romantic relationship. This art of conscious and sacred sexuality has been practiced for thousands of years by tantric couples in order to obtain authentic love, a deep and passionate connection and spiritual enlightenment. And today, everyone can draw on the experience and ancient knowledge of Tantric practitioners.
In order to bring real and lasting change to your relationship, it is crucial to make a commitment and make your love life a priority . In the same way that you always take time for work, for your friends and for watching television, you need to create time for intimacy and tantric practices. Why not start with two hours once a week. Enter this time slot in your calendar and only postpone it in case of absolute urgency. Being tired should never be an excuse because this practice will give you energy. Choose a day and a time that suits you both, for example Monday evening from 8pm to 10pm. You are likely to like the playful side and the connection that each session will bring you both!
Once the weekly session approaches, get ready by familiarizing yourself with the practices we will discuss. Have fun and do not take yourself too seriously. Keep your mind and heart open, even if something seems stupid at first. Do not put any practice aside, be prepared to try them. Be playful and curious.
Let’s go for a little tantric sex lesson! Tantric sex involves three levels of physical level, psychological level, and energy level (or Qi).
Generally, people make blockages because they:
- lack confidence
- are too much in expectation of an orgasm
- are ashamed of their emotions
- do not know how to go about it with their partner
- have a lot of aprioris
It is quite paradoxical, because Tantric sex has many advantages, it is able to bring orgasms breathtaking by mixing sex and emotions, it is excellent for repairing trauma of the past and it builds confidence in itself.
1. Tantric sex: Create a magic space
Transform your bedroom, your living room, your backyard, etc. in a temple of love.
Store and spread comfortable blankets and cushions, bring light sticks of incense, flowers or essential oils to diffuse, buy fruit and drinks that you both love. Create a feast for the senses! Do not use ceiling lights that are usually too strong. Instead, bring dim lamps or scented candles, their sparkles will bring some magic to the place. Put soft and relaxing music, a playlist of at least 2 hours so as not to be interrupted. Make sure the temperature is just right for you both to be naked.
2. Free your minds
If you are familiar with the art of meditation, start with 5-10 minutes of meditation practice. Otherwise, just close your eyes and start to breathe deeply, slowly. Deliberately releasing all thoughts, worries and stress with each exhale will help both of you become more aware and present in the present moment.
When we try to connect intimately just after a busy day, often the energy of our full schedules keeps us away from each other as thoughts about work, tasks and other commitments come into our minds. A few minutes of abdominal breathing will help you ward off all the distractions and stay much more involved with each other.
3. Use your eyes
Look deep into your partner’s eyes. You have the right to blink and close your eyes if necessary, this exercise should not be an effort. Look in the left eye of your beloved, because the left eye is more receptive, it is the door of the soul. You can also try the right eye to see if he feels better.
Try to maintain eye contact for 5 to 15 minutes. It may seem long at first until you really connect, and when that connection is made, you feel wonderfully well. Prolonged eye contact induces a slightly altered state of consciousness that provides a truly happy experience.
To improve exercise, synchronize your breathing to inhale and exhale at the same time as your partner.
4. Open your hearts to each other
When your bodies meet at a purely physical level, you have sex.
But when you mix your pleasure and excitement with your loving and emotional energy, you create love. The most rewarding sexual experiences occur when both partners connect to the love they feel for each other, when their hearts are open and receptive, when it’s not just their body that meets but also their hearts and souls.
Talk in turn about what you like about each other. Be specific, remember the special cases where your partner made you feel that he loved you. Dig deep in your heart, allow yourself to feel all the love you have for each other and then let the words of appreciation, gratitude and joy flow between you two.
5. The traditional tantric sex position: SIT IN YAB-YUM
Yab-Yum is a traditional tantric position intended to bring lovers together in a deeply sensual and intimate way. The man sits comfortably (usually in cross-legged position) and his partner sits on his lap facing him and kisses him with his arms and legs. Both can be dressed or naked.
By synchronizing their breathing and looking into each other’s eyes, they allow this profound experience of union to grow and deepen. There is nothing to do, nothing to achieve in this beautiful embrace. Lovers are holding each other for the pure joy and happiness of being together, enjoying and celebrating this special moment.
6. Share a tantric sex kiss
Always sit in Yab-Yum, bring your lips together, but do not touch yourself yet. This time alternate your breathing so that one partner inhales while the other expires. Enjoy the experience of breathing each other’s breath. After a while, let your lips brush gently against the lips and skin of your partners.
Finally, gather your lips in a soft and slow kiss. Do not make sudden movements, simply enjoy the kiss as you continue to caress your beloved’s lips with yours. Stay totally present with this experience, immersed in the pleasure, the sensuality and the intimacy of the moment.
7. Make love
Start touching and caressing yourself slowly, gently and consciously. Remember that tantric sex is not a quest for orgasm, but lies in the common pleasure, in being fully present and connected throughout the experience.
Let your body relax while you move together in an intimate dance of passion and excitement. Drop any lens and simply enjoy the fun and intimate nature of the time you spend together.
Tantric sex can include penetration and orgasm, or it can simply be an experience of touching, massaging, kissing and having fun. Let go of all the scripts, let go of the ideas of what should happen in the bedroom. To allow intimacy to occur in a conscious and respectful way. Just follow the fun, find your partner’s comments and have fun!
Tantric love is a celebration throughout which lovers recognize and appreciate the sanctity of their union, considering each other as special and divine. Touch and intimacy occur naturally, without effort, in full consciousness. The lovers do not lose themselves in the experience, disconnecting from each other, but always remain present, looking at each other’s eyes and deepening one into the other.
Lovers remain curious and continue to explore new positions and new ways of touching each other, knowing that there is no right or wrong way to do it. They appreciate movement, but also immobility as a beautiful way to deepen their sensitivity and absorb all the pleasure and excitement they feel.
Above all, Tantra is taking one’s time . The more you slow things down, the more pleasure you will experience. When you do not rush, the body has the chance to fully experience and note the depth of each sensation, thrill and vibration. Tantric sex is a treat of pleasure and as long as you experience it, you are on the right track!
How to master tantric sex? (or Sex-Tao)
There is also a new method to master tantric sex in a 100% natural way. This one comes from Jean Marie Corda, pornographic actor since 2007 and producer of many pornographic films.
N° 2 of the pornographic actors most followed on xvideos worldwide, it has already allowed more than 60,000 men in his home country, France, to regain their manhood and improve their performance at all levels. Since mid-2019, he offers his training in English, including one devoted to the mastery of tantric sex (or sex-tao):
With this training you will be able to control these sensations in your body. The first step is to use it to fully control your ejaculation. Then you will be able to manage your emotions, your mental focus, the way you sleep … It’s a powerfull tool, a life changing practice – the best thing we can share in this life.